Not too long ago, a former boss held a staff meeting where he made a couple of comments that hang with me. First, he said that he didn’t want to give us a lot of “silly rules.” Second, he said he trusted our judgment. Immediately, two red flags rose as I translated his words from Boss-ism to Employe-ese. He didn’t want to go to the trouble of setting rules…he was lazy…he was later fired. He had encapsulated his philosophy in vagueness with the subjective adjective “lazy,” a description he could later define as he pleased. Also, he set himself up, in my mind, to be shifty. Never trust anyone who says, “Trust me,” and trusting our judgment implied us trusting his.
Personally, I like rules. Saying this doesn’t mean I always follow them, but I like them being there. Of course, they keep us from being an absolutely chaotic breed. They provide security. They reduce the mind-less tasks we all perform into procedures and routines that we can do without thinking, saving that mind function for greater thoughts like what to eat for supper. Rules give a base we can build upon, improving the rule and sometimes overhauling it. Unfortunately, when we choose the wrong people to set the rules, we all suffer their stupidity. Rules are a slippery rock, and we should never be unwilling to object to them. Later in my tale, the above mentioned boss was fired. The new supervisor became frustrated with me. I openly disagreed with a stupid rule set by that job’s grand boss. My new boss said, “Sometimes, you just have to do it and not argue.” I said, “Never.” Rules are good things when they work.
With these thoughts in mind, here are a few rules that I hold dear, beliefs that I try to follow (the list is alphabetized, a good rule that shows less partiality):
Eating everything our plate is a good thing. My parents were produced by the Depression. As many children, I was told to finish everything on my plate. “Children are starving inChina.” Of course, the logic was badly skewed. Now, I watch my grandson leaving this thing or that untouched at dinner. After all, his mom and dad scrape remains from their plates. Later, my grandson asks for a treat, a fruit roll-up. I’m afraid the Department of Human Services will camp on our doorstep if I deny him. In my mind, he hasn’t earned the treat. I have seen my step son and daughter-in-law scraping off the excess mashed potatoes and peas and take a piece of cake, which they also fail to finish. The ten bites they are refusing to take represents a major flaw of our society. We are taught it is ok to do things half-way.
Marriage is a good thing. When I was growing up, marriage was important for all the wrong reasons. Then, it made us moral and righteous. There is nothing immoral about two people setting up a relationship without the artifice of marriage. There is nothing righteous about having ourselves, our spouses and our families enduring a failed marriage. Marriages do fail. I like, however, how marriage involves a formal commitment and keeps us from throwing away something that we could fix (a theme seen elsewhere). I feel divorce is way too easy, letting us pretend to be married when in fact we are just playing game.
Thriftiness is a good thing. We all know that we live in a throw-away society. That society was built by people who want to sell us things, over and over. They got rich, and we became suffocated by an enormity of waste. A few years ago, my printer needed a new ink cartridge. The black ink cost $35; the color cartridge cost $40. I went to WalMart, and a new printer cost $50, so I bought it—problem solved. When its cartridges ran low, I found they cost $25 and $30, respectively, but a new printer cost $35. Soon, our closet was full of printers. Hewlett-Packard, Epson and Lexmark had found a resourceful sales and production practice, and they are not alone. We live in a war zone between sales and common sense. Many of us no longer strive for thriftiness.
Work ethic is a good thing. We all need to avoid work sometimes, leave flat a part of our jobs. By doing so, we make a statement within our minds that we have some control over our lives. We should never leave work flat that will unfairly force work on our co-workers. My lesser job, the one I work 20 hours-a-week at, is largely production work where we process mail for a corporation. I work nights. The day-shift is comprised of slugs. They work on the easy mail, while spending their thought processes on finding complaints about the night crew. The classic complaint came when we got in trouble for doing too much of the work, not leaving them anything to do. I work very hard and do far more than my share. A year ago, management devised a system where the leading producers earned $5 Subway meal cards, based on monthly production. For the four months of the system, I earned $10 a month by winning two of the six categories. The night shift earned $25 a month. Management ended the system when complaints rose that the same people keep winning, which cost morale for the losers. By having a good work ethic, we instill self-pride and have an established work level that we can use to leave that flatness needed for personal statements. I now remove rubber-bands from my desktop, forcing the next worker to retrieve them. I dare not do more, else I might get fired.
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